Fear of Rejection

Yesterday my roommate and I were discussing the sorrows of being single. We were going over some of the things that hold us back from being outgoing. One of the things we discussed was our fear of people finding out who we really are. The fear of someone finding out that we really aren't perfect after all (a shocker I know ;P). No but really there are things in both of our lives that are embarrassing and hard to share, and the thought of sharing them and dealing through those things with that special someone is scary. But why? I dont know...we're just chicken and afraid to do it.

Today in church my pastor talked about the fear of rejection...how ironic. He mentioned that the fear of rejection is something we learn, not something we are born with. The only fears we are born with is the fear of falling and of loud noise. When we fear rejection we build up walls around us to isolate ourselves so that no one can see us. When he said this it totally hit home to me. This is exactly what I do. This is why I fear making new friends, this is why I cant even go up to a guy and say hello without my brain freezing. I worry to much about what people are going to think about my flaws. The remedy to this is knowing that we are loved unconditionally by Christ, He loves us no matter what. When we understand this love that He has for us, our walls of fear will tear down.

I needed to hear this so much, and I really want to work on truly knowing Gods unconditional love because these walls keep me from too much. :)

"Oh how He loves us so, Oh how He loves us, how He loves us so, He loves us, oh how He loves us, oh how He loves us, Oh how He loves..."

"Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior. But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation—" Colossians 1:21-22